How to choose a good username for a dating site
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• Resources Like most guys, I didn’t put much thought into my username when I first started with online dating. It’s just something I quickly selected when I first signed up to the dating site. My results were terrible: No emails, No responses, No love.
Matthew Valentines is an online dating concierge, and executive director at Personal Dating Assistants.
An attraction technologist at heart, he travels the world in search of beautiful women, new ways to help men with their online dating, and the perfect single malt whiskey.
I’ve had ever so many users come to me with usernames that either convey something totally off (wrong gender, for example) or just failed to help them stand out and shine.
Your username, coupled with your profile picture, is the MOST visible thing in search results.
As someone who has been an online dating coach since 2003, I’d venture to guess that I’ve not only seen more usernames than just about anyone on the planet, but I’ve written more of them as well.
I've managed profiles with cool usernames (Steve Mc Dream).And I've seen usernames that dudes thought were hilarious, but actually terrible ideas (Statutory Ape..takers, ladies? Working from a sample size of under 1000 men, I don't have perfect data.But I have learned quite a bit over the years about what goes into a great dating name.And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?Most people take one of two wrong tacks when coming up with an online dating username: 1) Putting ZERO thought into it: Bill10247, Claire T, Ally Cat 2) Putting minimal thought into it, using a literal description: Tall Doctor, Gorgeous Goddess, Fun2Be Around The problem with these efforts, of course, is not that they’re “bad”, but rather that they’re BORING. All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers.